When I was hiding my scars (i.e. t-shirts and turtlenecks in the Summertime) I was hurting. I was in emotional pain but I didn’t know it. I was so used to hiding that hiding my scars felt normal even though I subconsciously knew that it wasn’t.
Have you ever had that experience? Have you ever known that there was something wrong but you didn’t know how to or if you should ask for help?
STEP 1: Acknowledge Your Scars: You know something is wrong…don’t dismiss it or ignore it.
- You are not the only person having a challenging experience…you are not alone. Seriously…you are not the only one having challenges so don’t feel bad about that.
STEP 2: Make a Plan: Focus on the idea that it’s ok for you to have needs.
- Practice allowing someone to show up for you. (i.e. friends, family, etc) This is an exercise in vulnerability. Let someone take something off your plate.
- Find someone you feel comfortable having a conversation with. Someone with wisdom.
*If you feel like you don’t have that person in your life then open your mind to the possibility of speaking with a stranger (a therapist or coach).
This life is not to be lived alone. Someone cares for you. I believe that God displays love to us in a myriad of ways so, even if that care has to come through a stranger it will get to you!
*Sometimes we have gotten so accustomed to meeting the needs of others that we forget what our needs truly are so I have created a self-care checklist for you – click here to download.